Thursday, June 13, 2013

My diastasis recti.

Hatey hate hate it.

No, don't google it, trust me on this one. And if you did google it, don't worry, mine doesn't look all scary like that.

Mine looks more like this:

yes, I drew this. 
no, I don't dress like this.

Diastasis recti is when your tummy muscles are split apart down the middle, with no intention of going back together.

In the morning, my tummy doesn't look half-bad, but as I eat throughout the day, it pooches out more and more because there isn't much holding my insides inside. Gross? Yes, yes it is. My tummy sticks out in kind of a flat, square-y way.


At first, I just thought I had a muffin top because hey, every woman who just had a baby needs to lose a little weight around the middle, right?

But then I lost the weight. And then I lost more. I weighed less than maybe ever in my adult life. And I still had a disproportionately large stomach. And I exercised.  And I still had it. And I squeezed my eyes shut real tight and wished really hard. And I STILL HAD IT.

And then in a routine checkup almost a year after having my baby, my midwife felt my tummy and finally gave me the answer. It often happens to women who have big babies, or who've had multiple pregnancies. She told me to look up a YouTube video for toning my abs and I'd be just fine.

I did and I wasn't. A random YouTube video wasn't going to help me.

sorry, Richard, it's just not going to work out this time. no offense.

Diastasis recti is NOT solved by doing crunches. In fact, crunches make it worse because they can split the muscles even more. Lifting heavy things the wrong way, and even moving in the wrong way can aggravate the condition.

After trying some different things, I found an exercise program made for mamas just like me. And I've been working on it now for three months. I'd love to tell you that I am now Abs Of Steel Mama, but that is not the case. This thing is kicking my trash. And it will probably only get worse if I have more kids. And of course if you look it up online, all those nice, disinterested surgeons will say it can only be fixed with surgery.

It's killing me!

Okay, look, I know what you're thinking. Big deal! A little flabby tummy! Quit yer whining and take a look at what you got out of it!


You are so totally right. They are so totally worth it.

And if you think you might have diastasis recti too, I am here to support you. And not just around the mid-section.

16 comments:

The Gilberts said...

I have it too, and I actually think a lot of moms have it. Especially us shorties! I feel your pain! Last year when I lost ALL my pregnancy weight, I still had a flabby tum tum, and it made me super super irritated! If you wouldn't mind sharing your exercise program with me that would be sweet. :0 I need help!!!

merrilykaroly said...

Ashley, there some different methods you can try. The two most famous are the Tupler and the MuTu System. I'm currently doing MuTu (MummyTummy). It costs some $$, though. You can check out http://mutusystem.com/. Good luck!

Josh said...

I love you and I love your tummy. Don't you EVER forget it.

Katie Bradley said...

I want to know how you were able to draw my tummy so accurately.

merrilykaroly said...

Katie, we must be twins! And you know a bit about twins, I think.

Josh, you're the best.

merrilykaroly said...

P.S. I didn't want this to turn into a Mutu commercial because I haven't gotten good results yet. I can keep you posted.

Jenny said...

I think I probably have it too, but I've never looked into it. But you're so right- those babies are worth it. :)

Linda said...

I've agonized over things like this over the years. They can be very difficult. I for one am very happy with you as a daughter! Here is an article that has helped me. http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865581488/Weight-loss-never-promised-peace-Why-I-exercise-without-expectations.html

merrilykaroly said...

Mother dear, that was a wonderful article. It IS liberating to exercise for the sheer joy of doing it. I've been running for a couple of months now, but I don't expect to lose weight from it. I also have no plans to enter a race. I just love how it makes me feel. (Although it does help me maintain the weight I'm at. And give me a little more wiggle room for ice cream :) ) Those silly tummy exercises though? I'm definitely doing those for some results :)

I really like that lady's perspective. It just feels nice. Not sure if it's possible to get to that point, but it would be really nice :)

Allison said...

Ugh. I feel for you. I recently purchased a weight loss DVD set from Mom's Into Fitness. They specifically discuss Diastasis Recti and use exercises to try and bring those muscles back in line. I will let you know how it goes since I am just starting the 60 day program. (http://baby.steals.com/daily/deal/id/3005080/moms-into-fitness-pretty-fierce )

Camilla Cole said...

:( Rascally babies. You are such a driven woman, I'm sure you'll see results. I'm also sure you look fab already, no matter what you say. I have a pooch myself, but I'm such a lazy bum, I don't know if I'll ever get around to actually doing something about it :) Oh well, at least one of us will look good (you)!

Steph said...

I didn't know there was a name for it, but that makes a lot of sense! Darn post-baby tummies.

Josh said...

I just think there should be a good reminder that I love your DR. Love it, and love you so much.

Mandie Flood said...

same here adele. Its a hard thing to love about ones self especially since we ladies are told all sorts of ways we are "supposed to look". I realize that you were venting a little about you dislike, but I love that you did. Women need to know that babies change things forever. There isn't a single aspect of life that babies don't change. I love that you know what you got in return is so totally worth it. you are a high-glossy-finish of an example. We ladies need to know how much alike all of us are.

Mandie Flood said...

same here adele. Its a hard thing to love about ones self especially since we ladies are told all sorts of ways we are "supposed to look". I realize that you were venting a little about you dislike, but I love that you did. Women need to know that babies change things forever. There isn't a single aspect of life that babies don't change. I love that you know what you got in return is so totally worth it. you are a high-glossy-finish of an example. We ladies need to know how much alike all of us are.

Kimberley Somethingorother said...

I just wrote an entire book, and it erased when I pressed publish.